Communication, Expectations and Disappointment

Some of the biggest screw-ups that I've come across to date always seem to have their roots in mis-communication or lack of communication. "Words are at best a poor excuse for communication" - very true. And in fact, even my attempt to write something about this on here is probably not going to be successful in communication what I am really thinking (well, part of that is for a difference reason, see the upcoming blog on Vagueness and Continued Ambivalence).

People just cannot seems to be honest and tell others what they really think. There is always a facade to maintain. Always some scheming in the background. What it results in is a lack of understanding. A lack of clear expectations. When person A expects something else, because person B just didn't have the balls to come out and say what they really want to say or vice versa. And as it was said in one of the quotes I have in the old quotes blog somewhere... expectation is the first step to disappointment. Mis-matched expectations is what causes people to get pissed. It's what causes people to be diappointed. To be hurt. To be pissed-off and angry.

I definitely maintain that I would be happier knowing than not knowing. I'd rather know what the fuckups are. What the problems are. What the expectations are. If I know, then what actions need to be taken can be a educated decision. And yes sometimes knowing can be worse... but that is a decision for the individual to make. Whether or not they want to know. It is wrong for anyone to make that decision for another.

So, as I said in quotes today... People confuse me. Really. They do. But I guess the non-predictable nature of humans is what makes us fascinating as well...